Top 3 Reasons We Fall In Love
Hani Henry, who is chair and associate professor of Psychology in the Department of Sociology, Anthropology, Psychology and Egyptology of the AUC, believes that Robert Sternberg's psychological theory explains why people fall in love, and they are in fact the most common reasons, which are intimacy, passion, and commitment.
Intimacy
It is possible to fall in love for intimate reasons, but it does not require commitment or passion. "Besides developing a close connection with someone, a lot of people seek intimacy for self-enhancement; it doesn't necessarily have to be for sex," said Henry. Sometimes it is self-serving. Everyone likes to feel cared for and loved. Women desire to feel their femininity and men desire to feel their masculinity.
The song Hello by Adele is a great example of intimacy. Adele calls her ex-boyfriend in the chorus and vents her pain about the relationship. She explains that many years have passed and she hasn't done much healing. He said that her lyrics were magical and could be used by anyone who wants to feel a connection with someone or have a long-term relationship.
Passion
Normal to fall in love out of desire or strong feelings is normal. Passionate love is developed as a result of feelings that lead to sexual attraction, physical interest and romance. Henry explained, "When you meet someone you like you become captivated by that person." "The attraction is physical, and there is a fascination with the hair, eyes and body."
Infatuation can develop with someone you love if there is not intimacy and commitment. "People become captivated and develop lust. Some people see the person they love as a kind of object. He stated that it is possible to be together for years with someone and not feel a commonality.
Commitment
Complete love requires commitment. He stated that those who are committed want stability and a healthy partner. "People who seek only commitment can be unable to find basic friendship and sexual attraction.
Henry said that in modern times young adults are more interested than ever in objects and relationships. He said, "The objectification of culture comes from consumerism." "The more consumeristic a culture becomes, then the more people lose interest in commitments. Some youth are more interested than others in pleasing people they don’t care for. Everything must be consumed, even relationships with other people.
Love Outside the Triangular Theory
Although it's common that anyone can relate to Sternberg's love theory, we all have our personal reasons for falling in love. Your reason for falling madly in love does not necessarily have to be explained by science. Henry stated that some personal needs could include the fear of being alone or social peer pressure, fulfillment, or religious values.
No matter what psychology says about love, our choice of type of love defines who we are. Each person has their own understanding of what makes them happy and fulfills their human needs. "Some people find themselves with a need for each dimension of the triangle. However, gitari can't give up one of their needs because of the many. Love is complex.